Sexual intimacy is a vital part of marriage, fostering closeness, trust, and passion. Yet, for many couples, achieving orgasm can be a challenge for the wife, leaving both spouses feeling frustrated or disconnected. The husband will feel like he isn’t good enough to pleasure here, while the wife is wondering what is wrong with herself. This can cause couples to shy away from being intimate.
The truth is, most women don’t climax from penetration alone, in fact, over 80% of women cannot have an orgasm through intercourse alone, so understanding how to properly stimulate the clitoris is the key to unlocking her pleasure. If you’re looking to enhance your spouse’s experience in the bedroom and deepen your connection, these expert tips will help.
Understand That the Clitoris Is the Key to Her Pleasure
The clitoris is the most sensitive erogenous zone for women and plays the biggest role in achieving orgasm. Unlike men, whose pleasure is primarily focused on one area, women’s pleasure comes from external stimulation. The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of the body—making it the primary source of sexual pleasure for most women.
Tip: Spend time exploring the clitoris and finding out what feels good for your spouse. Soft, consistent stimulation through touch, oral sex, or the use of a vibrating ring can significantly enhance her pleasure.
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Use a Vibrating Ring or Vibrator for Increased Stimulation
A vibrating ring is a simple but powerful tool that can make a huge difference in your spouse’s experience. These rings are designed to be worn around the base of the penis, providing gentle vibrations to the clitoris during intercourse. Since most women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, this added vibration can be a game-changer.
Tip: Look for a vibrating ring with different intensity settings so you can find what works best for your spouse. Incorporating this tool can help create a more pleasurable and intimate experience.
Focus on Foreplay (And Make It Longer Than You Think)
For women, arousal takes time. Unlike men, who can become physically ready for sex in minutes, women need a buildup of physical and emotional connection to fully enjoy intimacy. Foreplay is essential for increasing blood flow to the clitoris and preparing the body for orgasm.
Try focusing on the journey, and not the ending.
Tip: Foreplay should include kissing, sensual massage, oral stimulation, and teasing. Aim for at least 15-20 minutes before moving into penetration to ensure your spouse is fully aroused and ready.
Pay Attention to Her Body’s Responses
Every woman is different, and what feels good for one may not be the same for another. The best way to ensure your spouse’s pleasure is to pay close attention to her body’s responses. Watch for signs like deep breathing, moaning, or increased movement—these indicate what’s working.
Tip: Encourage open communication by asking her what she enjoys and adjusting your technique based on her feedback.
Try Different Positions and Intimacy Aids That Stimulate the Clitoris
Certain positions allow for better clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Positions where she can control the movement, such as woman-on-top, allow her to adjust the pressure and angle for maximum pleasure. Additionally, positions that keep the bodies closely pressed together, like missionary with a slight upward tilt, can provide more direct contact with the clitoris.
Tip: Experiment with different positions and incorporate additional clitoral stimulation using your hands or a vibrating ring to enhance her pleasure.
The Deep End Sex Position
Getting Into The Position
The wife lies on her back with her legs slightly open and arms to her side.The husband lays between her legs and holds her shoulders.The wife can put a pillow under her bottom to help lift her pelvis to control the position and angle.
How To Do It
The husband and wife make love to each other. This is a great position to use a vibrating ring to stimulate the clitoris.
Stretched Out
Getting Into The Position
The wife lies on her back on an ottoman or on the edge of the bed with her arms stretched out above her head.
She has her legs hanging off of the bed.
The wife spreads her legs open and her husband leans down in front of her, facing her.
How To Do It
The husband penetrates his wife. He leans forward so his body is on top of her. He can use his upper body and elbow to support himself. This will apply pressure to her clitoris and he can kiss her neck, lips and breasts while they make love to each other.
Tag Team
Getting Into The Position
The husband stands a few feet from the wall facing it.
His wife stands in front of him (in between her husband and the wall) with her back facing his chest.
His wife presses her bottom out a little against his pelvis. She then leans forward and can use her arms to brace herself against the wall.
How To Do It
The husband then penetrates his wife and makes love to her. He can also use a free hand to stimulate her clitoris while he makes love to her, or she can use her free hand to do so.
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Don’t Rush – Slow and Steady Wins the Race
Women’s arousal is often compared to a slow cooker—it takes time to warm up but results in deeper, more fulfilling pleasure. Rushing through intimacy or focusing solely on penetration can make it harder for her to reach orgasm.
Tip: Take your time and build anticipation. Slow movements, teasing, and deep eye contact can enhance the experience and help her feel more connected to you emotionally and physically.
Encourage Communication and Exploration
Many women feel shy or hesitant about expressing what they enjoy in the bedroom. Creating a safe and open space for communication is essential in helping her feel comfortable and confident in exploring her pleasure.
Tip: Encourage your spouse to share what she likes and dislikes. Using phrases like, “Does this feel good?” or “Tell me what you enjoy” can make her feel valued and heard.
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Use Lubrication for a More Enjoyable Experience
Sometimes, a lack of natural lubrication can make intimacy uncomfortable, preventing full enjoyment. Using a high-quality lubricant can enhance pleasure and reduce any discomfort, making it easier for her to relax and focus on sensation.
Tip: Choose a body-safe, water-based lubricant that is gentle and long-lasting. Some lubricants also have warming or tingling effects to increase sensitivity and pleasure.
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Focus on Her Needs First
One of the most important aspects of helping your spouse orgasm is prioritizing her pleasure. If she feels valued and cherished in the bedroom, she will be more likely to relax and enjoy the experience fully.
Tip: Try focusing on her pleasure before penetration. Many women find it easier to orgasm through oral stimulation or manual touch before intercourse.
Build Emotional Intimacy Outside the Bedroom
Sexual intimacy is deeply connected to emotional intimacy. If your spouse feels emotionally disconnected, stressed, or unappreciated, it can be difficult for her to relax and enjoy physical intimacy.
Tip: Show affection outside the bedroom through small gestures like holding hands, complimenting her, and spending quality time together. The stronger your emotional connection, the more fulfilling your intimate moments will be.
Final Thoughts
Helping your spouse achieve orgasm in marriage is not just about technique—it’s about creating an environment where she feels safe, desired, and connected. By focusing on clitoral stimulation, incorporating tools like a vibrating ring, prioritizing foreplay, and encouraging open communication, you can enhance both her pleasure and the intimacy in your marriage.
A fulfilling sex life strengthens your emotional bond and brings you closer together, making your marriage more passionate and satisfying for both of you.
