Keeping the spark alive in your marriage requires intentional effort and commitment. Setting goals together as a couple can help you focus on what truly matters—strengthening your bond, reigniting passion, and having more fun together.
Setting goals in marriage is crucial because it creates a shared vision for your relationship, helping you grow closer and work as a team. Goals give your marriage direction and purpose, ensuring you’re intentional about nurturing your bond rather than letting life’s distractions take over. They also encourage consistent effort, which is essential for maintaining connection, passion, and trust.
When couples set and achieve goals together, they strengthen their relationship and build a sense of accomplishment that deepens intimacy. Whether it’s through shared adventures, improved communication, or prioritizing quality time, setting goals provides a roadmap to a thriving, fulfilling marriage.
These 10 goals are simple yet powerful ways to cultivate deeper connection and joy in your relationship.
1. Daily Physical Touch
Touch is a love language all on its own. Prioritize hugging, kissing, holding hands, and cuddling every single day. Physical connection, even in small ways, releases oxytocin, which strengthens your bond and reduces stress.
2. Do an Adventure Together Monthly
Shared experiences create lasting memories and bring excitement to your relationship. Whether it’s hiking a new trail, exploring a nearby town, or trying an escape room, make it a goal to embark on one adventure together every month.
The Intimacy and Adventure Marriage Retreat is a great way to bring the passion, excitement and connection back to your relationship, because there is no better way to connect then having fun and being intimate!
The best marriage retreat you will ever attend! The Intimacy and Adventure retreat offers the best of everything for couples looking to transform their relationship and connect on a deeper level, by strengthen their emotional and physical intimacy. Couples will experience exceptional meals from some of the areas best dining experiences, thrilling adventures (hiking, slot canyon, and UTV) suitable for ALL skill levels, over 8 hours of instruction from world renowned marriage experts Greg and Julie Gorman with Married For A Purpose, and luxurious hotel accommodations.
3. Schedule an Intimacy Calendar a Month in Advance
Plan ahead to ensure you’re prioritizing physical intimacy. An intimacy calendar helps you both look forward to special moments and ensures you’re carving out time for connection amid busy schedules. Why scheduling sex isn’t as weird as you think!
For many people the concept of scheduling sex goes completely against what we are led to believe from watching the movies. In the movies, both people are ready to go at a moments notice and ALWAYS seem to be in the mood whether morning, afternoon or evening. It’s as if they have nothing better to do. Well… the movies are a fantasy and that is not what reality is for all of us people off the big screen. In real life, couples seldom are both in the mood at the same time and sex often doesn’t happen spontaneously as life is so busy with work, kids and many other things.
Scheduling sex can be an amazing thing for several reasons and after listening to this podcast, you may just find yourself scheduling sex in your relationship for better and more frequent sexual intimacy.
4. Unplug Each Night an Hour Before Bed
Make technology-free time a daily habit by setting aside phones, laptops, and TVs an hour before bed. Use this time to talk, read, or simply enjoy each other’s presence. It’s a small change with a big impact on connection.
5. Build a Shared Bucket List
Sit down and dream together. Create a list of experiences, places, and goals you both want to achieve. From traveling to a dream destination to learning a new hobby as a couple, having a shared vision adds excitement to your marriage. Every couple should create a vision board.
6. Do a Monthly Check-Up in Your Marriage
Take time each month to discuss your relationship. Talk about what’s working, areas for improvement, and your goals for the future. It’s a powerful way to stay aligned and keep communication strong.
7. Laugh Together Daily
Laughter is one of the simplest ways to connect. Share funny stories, watch a comedy, or reminisce about your favorite inside jokes. A little laughter can go a long way in keeping your relationship light and joyful.
8. Surprise Each Other Once a Month
Plan a thoughtful surprise for your spouse at least once a month. It could be as simple as leaving a sweet note, planning a date night, or buying their favorite treat. Surprises remind your spouse they’re cherished and keep the relationship fresh.
9. Attend a Couples Retreat or Getaway Once a Year
Take time away from daily responsibilities to focus solely on each other. A couples retreat or annual getaway can rejuvenate your relationship and help you reconnect on a deeper level.
10. Weekly Date Nights
Make date night a non-negotiable. Whether it’s a fancy dinner out or a cozy night in, prioritize quality time together every week to nurture your bond and keep the romance alive.
To make your date night more fun and exciting, we have several products that can help both in and out of the bedroom! Check out our great products to take your date nights to another level!
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The UandI App – The “Game Changer” For Your Marriage!
The U&I app is here and we know you’ll love it! Here’s a sneak peek at what’s included:
- Daily Challenges – Emotional and intimate challenges to keep your connection strong.
- Date Night Challenges and Adventures – Ideas and tips for unforgettable date nights.
- Quizzes – Fun ways to learn more about each other.
- Live Polls – Engage in real-time with your spouse.
- Ask an Expert – Get relationship advice from professionals.
- Interactive Games – Including “How Well Do You Know Your Spouse?” and non-graphic sex position games.
- Intimate Conversations – Foster deep, meaningful conversations.
- Secure Chat Feature – A private space for just the two of you.
- Harmony Home – Organize and sync your household chores and schedules.
FREE to Download!
We believe this app can be a game-changer for your marriage, helping you build stronger emotional intimacy, stay organized, and even add some extra spice to your relationship. It’s totally free to download, so there’s no reason not to give it a try today!
For more information, visit uandiapp.com and get started on the journey to a more connected, exciting marriage.
We can’t wait to hear how the U&I app helps you and your spouse create the marriage you’ve always dreamed of. Here’s to stronger bonds, more fun, and lots of love!
